When we started wedding discussion, the bride to be made the
following statement: the only things I really care about are my dress, the
flowers, the cake topper and the chairs. That was what she said That was not
what she meant.
What she meant was, “I care most about those things.”
I can best explain
how things transpired by comparing it to that moment in the car when a group of
people starts to discuss where to eat. There will be a lot of “it doesn’t matter to me” and “I don’t care;
whatever y’all think” until someone actually starts naming restaurants. Then
there are lots of “oh, not there. The last time I ate there…” and “Mexican food
just doesn’t sound that good right now.”
That’s precisely how our planning discussions went. The
frustration we all felt is pretty much a given.
A relative of a relative, who is a wedding planner, heard we were trying to plan a wedding on our own and offered to help. I met with her by myself the first time. I looked at pictures of weddings she’d done and she looked at pictures of what I had identified as being what we wanted. As I drove away from her house, I had this overwhelming desire to cry. She had asked questions only someone who does weddings would know to ask. I had very few answers. As I talked to my daughter later that day, I realized that the answers I thought I had were wrong.
The wedding planner/.backdoor relative/good Samaritan, who I’ll
call Glenda (because that’s her name) said two things I won’t forget.
The first thing she said is “I pray over all the weddings I
do and this one is no exception.” That
thought got me through many a tough moment in the weeks that followed. I knew Glenda was a prayer warrior and since
I desire to be a person on frequent (even constant) and fervent prayer, I was
encouraged by these words. I reckoned that if she and I were agreeing in
prayer, Jesus would be there in the
middle of our plans. And He was…
The second thing she said is, ”at the end of the day, what
matters is that the bride and groom are happy.” Obviously I was working to
make/keep the bride happy but had not considered that the groom needed to be
happy, too. Oops.
From then on, I considered the groom and his feelings, too. I
prayed, a lot. And yes, I cried a little. Some of the tears were even happy
ones!
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