Thursday, May 30, 2013

heritage

 
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The women in the picture to the right are relatives of mine. The one standing second from the left is my great-Grandmother. The others are her sisters. These women were the daughters of a Baptist preacher. They are said to be the source of the red hair  some of our children and grandchild possess.
I have heard stories about some of them. I knew a couple of the. Certainly I knew my great grandmother well enough.
I remember her quilting, her biscuits, how she loved to work in the yard. I remember that she dipped snuff.  We visited her at her home fairly often. Every winter, she came to stay with my grandmother, her only daughter. It was during those times I came to know her best.
The original of the photo of she and her sisters hung in an oval frame at my grandparents. I loved seeing what the women I knew looked like in their younger days but I never really cared for the photo itself.
It was inside a heavy oval frame. Time has weathered the print to something like black and sepia. Frankly, I did not miss it when my grandmother gave it to a younger cousin. Years later, after my Grandmother died, I wondered about its location and my middle sister told me had been given to the daughter of one of the young of my grandma's aunts (my great grandmother's sisters.)
My middle sister, who did more to care for my grandparents after my Dad died than anyone else, was disappointed. "I really wanted that picture," she said, simply.
Now if my grandma knew my middle sister had wanted that picture, I am certain she would have had it. But typical of my sweet, considerate sister, she never said a word. Not to Grandma, not to anyone.
Recently, she celebrated her 50th birthday. The baby sister and I worked hard to locate the self same photo to give to her. The best we could do was to find a copy that we could copy.
We intend to have it framed in an old mirror of our Grandmother's. It's as close as we can come to the original.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

a proud auntie

 
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The handsome kids in the photo above are my nephews and niece, the three eldest children of my baby sister. They are all three scholar graduates from the same high school. All have sweet personalities, excellent character and bright futures. I am proud to be their auntie.

how to write good

 
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I have a minor degree in English. I was a journalist for many years. Not that you would know it, perhaps, if you read certain posts from this blog. I still time to write, not that I have a profession that required only technical and serious writing.
I know the heading on the notice above should read "How to Write Well" but it so perfectly sums up most of the grammatical and other rules I now routinely break that I wanted to post it here.
I retrieved it from the Facebook page of my cousin, Eva, who also happens to be my first pen pal.
She and I began writing letters to each other many, many moons ago. At first, we wrote about things like the Beatles and "Dark Shadows" and lime sherbet. Later we shared news of our relatives and our lives. During my newspaper years, she often proof read things for me and gave me constructive criticism.
Though I periodically send her a card or trinket, most of our communication now is electronic.  It seems fitting, then, that she would agree to help me stay within the perimeters of the rules she posted by editing blog posts for me when she has the time.
Since she is on summer break from her job teaching and is not having to grade papers or prepare her students for academic competitions, I don't feel so bad about asking her to edit me.
I can hardly wait to read her observations and criticisms. Anyone who reads this blog should appreciate her work, too. It is certain to be better for her involvement!
 

Monday, May 27, 2013

Summer!

This weekend marks the official start of Summer. The winter was so mild and the Spring so slow in coming, it seems strange think that Summer is upon us; yet it is.
We spent some time today discussing our plans for Summer. Several birthdays, a family reunion, some favorite holidays are included in our plans.
I grabbed a printable bucket list off Pinterest to go over with the fam.
A lot of what I had written down was chore-like activities.
For shame. I need motivation to have some fun and I found it here.
I am imagining that when we make a list of our own, more fun will be found.

He's led us, right by the hand, all the way

Shortly before my paternal Grandfather was called home, he did a rather amazing thing. My grandmother told me the story not long after he was gone. I have carried the story in my heart for a long time. I wanted to share it now with the readers of this blog.
He'd been ill for some time. His illness and the treatments for that illness had zapped him of his 
One of the last photos I had taken with my
 sweet Pawpaw before he left for Home.
 
strength. He was not able to keep down even his favorite foods.  He slept fitfully.
Just he and my Grandmother were in the home they'd shared for more than a half century. He was sitting in his favorite chair. She was busy in the kitchen adjacent to the room where he rested. She heard him speaking and tried to answer. When he did not respond immediately she went to him and asked if he needed something. He opened his eyes but did not really look at her, she said. Instead, he looked beyond her at something in the distance, or so it seemed to her.
What he said to her, as it was repeated to me, I will never forget.  "He's led us, right by the hand, all the way," he said.
He was gone not long after making that statement. Through it, he left this granddaughter, with great hope of the same. No, with great assurance.

Sunday, May 26, 2013

in re: okies

We are still digging out of the rubble here in Oklahoma. A couple of fierce, killer tornados wiped our part of the populous and much of the community in two areas of our state.
The stories of loss are devastating. It will take time to heal and to rebuild.
We have known loss before. We will find the strength to endure and to rebuild.
We are nothing if not resilient.
We have proven to it ourselves and to the world many times.
From the land run to Oklahoma City Bombing to wildfires and floods, we have endured. We will endure again; still. With the help of God, each others and the many hands who have reached out (and continue to reach out) we will rise to our feet again, square our shoulders and trudge on. That is what Okies do. It is what we've always done. Whatever comes. Whatever it takes, we find the strength. We endure.

Friday, May 24, 2013

kindergarten girl, no more

 
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It is an amazing privilege to watch my Emma grow up. Because she lives close by we can see her often. We are able to attend her school, dance and other events. Emma's grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins can be (and are) a big part of her life. For all of that I am exceedingly thankful
As much a part of it as we all are. As thankful as we all are, the adults in the mix all agree that it's moving way too fast.
When I look at the pictures above I can hardly believe how much she's grown, though I've watched it happen on an almost daily basis.
And it's not just physical growth... the things she knows and understands grows by such bounds I continue to be amazed.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Storm warnings

I was at the Baccalaureate service for my nephew when the tornado sirens began to sound.
It was unsettling. Text messages from my middle sister told us that she and her family would not be attending since they were in the storm cellar under their house.
The Hub, who is the 911 director in the same county, was at work helping field calls during what turned out to be a whopper of a tornado.
It's that time of year. The swath tornado alley cuts through the heartland surely encompasses the Sooner State.
It's something Okies are accustomed to, though none of us like the fact.
When I was a child, I knew storm season had set in when my Mama took our baby pictures and the same big ole Beeswax candle down to the cellar. They stayed there until storm season passed. It was comforting to me, somehow. Knowing that our pictures were safe and that the candle would be there waiting for us if we had to make a run for shelter.
I asked her about it while we were waiting for the senior's special service to start.
"I hadn't thought of that candle for years," she said.
I told her I can still remember how it smelled. I love beeswax to this day. Because it was  so pretty, embellished all around with gilded cherubs.  I thought she was preserving it. Now I realize it was to be our light in the dark cellar if need be.
We spent a good amount of time down in the cellar. It was dark and dank. A cot and some lawn chairs stayed on the ready. There were rows and rows of jars. Back then Mama and Grandma canned fruits and vegetables and stored them there in the cellar.  We would not have gone hungry if we'd had to stay in that cellar for any extended amount of time.

I didn't much like it down there but I sure felt safe. Right now, safety is something I don't feel.
Every few minutes for the past few days, word of another storm comes across the media.
For the second time in two days, the news is filled with tales of damage and loss.
The stories break my heart. The Hub just came home and took a nap, something he seldom does. He is exhausted from dispatching first responders and search and rescue teams. Many of the calls coming into emergency dispatch involve people looking for family members. Other want to know when it will be safe to return to homes that may are may not be there. Pets are lost.
I pray that the God of all Comfort will be to those so terribly impacted what that beeswax candle was to me.. a symbol of light and protection.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

I love the King's kids

 
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 Our children's church is called "Kings Kids." We are on the list of folks who volunteer to do story time, music and crafts with kiddos while their parents are in "big church."
It is great fun. Sometimes I think I have as much (or more)  fun than the kids do. The Hub is a wonderful helper and a kid magnet. Various other relatives will step up and help us. Yesterday, we had our baby daughter home and able to help.
The story is one of my favorites: the story of Joseph and his coat of many colors. The theme was kindness and certainly Joseph is exemplifies that trait. Our memory verse was "Be ye kind, one to another." That is the first verse I ever learned as a child, so it was fun to be able to teach it to these little ones. We used chenille stems to decorate a paper coat and colored a picture to look like stained glass window.
All day today, a statement Joseph made to his brothers has been running through my mind. His words, recorded in Genesis 50:20, assured them that the things that had happened to him might have been intended for evil, but God had used them for good.
I hope that every little soul at King's Kids yesterday went away with knowing that the same thing that is true for the Joseph of old is true for all of us.  I love King's Kids.
 

thinking Christmas in June

 
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I am going to blame my thoughts of Christmas when it is only June on the fact that I picked up a copy of the Hallmark Christmas wish book last weekend when I was buying cards.
The first months of this year have flown by. I expect the next six will, as well.
Every November/December, I wish I had spent some of the summer months doing things ahead of time that would cause the holidays be less stressful.
I have had some success. I've been so proud I blogged about it. This year, I intend my summer efforts to be altogether blog-worthy.
Just as soon as I finish the wedding and baby and birthday gifts I have in various stages of completion, I am going to spend some serious time working ahead on Christmas labels and cards. There is a quilt or two I need to finish. Oh, and some pillow covers I have a pattern for. Then there's the holiday photo frames and scrapbooks....

Broadening my horizons

 
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I pretty much like the same things... shoes, hairstyle,
My taste in music is somewhat eclectic
Same with books.
 But when it comes to movies, I am really much history, romance or comedy.
Who's have thought, the newest Star Trek movie would have all three?
I went grudgingly on a double date with the Hub and a couple of good friends. They all love sci-fi and adventure films.  Some of them had been counting the days 'til the premier of "Into the Darkness."
Having refused to watch William Shatner and Leonard Nemoy as Captain Kirk and Mr. Spock back in the day, I was quite disinterested in watching some newbies reprise their roles. Not even in 3D, did I expect to enjoy the movie, especially watching with some trekkies.
I have official broadened my horizons, albeit narrowly. Still, progress is progress. Isn't it?!
 

Saturday, May 18, 2013

What is that smell?

I find myself searching without success for a perfume I like. I am funny about scents, so this may not be easy. Once in a blue moon I will stumble onto something that catches my fancy.
Many years ago, my boyfriend, now husband, bought me a bottle of "musk." it was popular at the time and I wore it because he'd gotten it for me. My mother-in-law told me, years later, that she considered it among the rankest things she'd ever smelled.
She wore youth dew. as did her mother. actually, in the case of her mother, my husband's grandmother who we called "Eee" she bathed in it, powdered with it. She wore scented lotion. layer upon layers of youth dew is an apt description. Her scent arrived long before she did. She was easy to buy for, though.
My husband's sister wore Charlie for years and years. My mother wore Tabu.One of my sisters wears Michael. The other wears Burberry. Those were their signature fragrances.
I did not and still do not have one.
Halston was to be my fragrance in my twenties, but alas, morning sickness took care of that. To this day, if I get a whiff of that scent or anything close to it, I am overcome by waves of nausea.
I sadly gave away the boxed set I'd just received mid pregnancy.
Several Christmases later, I tore an ad from a magazine and smelled the strip for a new cologne I decided to try.  The hub asked what I wanted for Christmas and being how I was a few months along with my third child, clothes or other similar things really weren't on my wish list, unless they be maternity.
I gave the ad to the hub who took the ad to the mall but could find no "Eternity" yet in stock at any of the stores. Finally, he asked a clerk in cosmetics if that particular store carried "maternity." He did not find her attempt at humor via a play on words with "Eternity" and "maternity" funny but it has made for a funny family story.
I did finally receive a set of Eternity, we found it on a trip to Washington DC a few months later, as I recall. I wore it for several years. My baby daughter calls it the "smell of" her childhood.
Inevitably they stop making any scent I settle on. The same thing happens with lipstick shades.

 I have worn Victoria's Secret tranquil breezes.
and Crabtree and Evelyn's Sarawak, both pictured above. Those are two of my  list of longer availables.
All this to say, I am back on the hunt for a new cologne or perfume.
I could go back to Chanel No. 5.



Garden plants

Finally, the weather has warmed up enough for me to set out plants.
I stopped on my way home and picked up most of what was on my list.


sweet potato vine  to fill in vacant spots in planters.
I also have rosemary and sweet mint to plant in our little kitchen garden alongside
tomato, cucumber and squash plants.
we'll need cilantro and peppers to use for homemade salsa.

For the porch and the area out front I have a pair of cream colored knock out roses for the square planters on the porch and a flat of petunias to fill the area in front of half wall along the sidewalk.

The hub and I still need to take an inventory walk through in yard to see what else we need but I am pleased with what's done so far...

Saturdays at Home

I am sitting here, as I write this, in my pajamas. it is a few minutes after noon and I have no where I have to be until 6 or so this evening.
There is cuticle cream on my hands. There is a lavender/chamomile candle burning on the table in front of me. It is blissfully quiet.
Only the sound of the chain saw outside being used by the Hub to remove the last vestiges of a monster tree we lost over the winter interrupts the silence.
I am sipping a cup of coffee that the Hub made before he set about his work outside.
I love Saturdays at home.

My contact with the outside world is limited to a brief telephone conversation with one of my dad's first cousins about family pictures and an chatted online with a friend to get a progress report on someone we both know who was recently injured in an accident. I have kept only my own company and that of the three lap dogs currently charged to my care.
I love Saturdays at home.

There is laundry going in both the washer and dryer.  A grocery list I've begun for the coming week and the lessons for children's church tomorrow are spread out on the table beside me. I can work on both at my leisure.
There is yard work I could do before more rain sets in. I might do that in a few minutes. Or I might take a nap instead.
I just love Saturdays at home.

I have spent a little time on Pinterest. I have done some online shopping for upcoming birthdays. There are some graduation gifts on my desk in the kitchen I will wrap at some point. Some more work on my blog or some virtual farming might be in my immediate future. I could read some of this month's issue of Southern Living or the new book I downloaded to my Kindle. There are lots of options and plenty of time.
That's why I love Saturdays at home.

There are some vintage jewelry parts I intend to use to make a necklace and some seed pearls I want to string for my grandbaby.
Most days my schedule is tight and inflexible. But not on Saturday. At least not on Saturdays like this one.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

On Tuesdays, I blog

For the past few years, I have lunched on Tuesdays with my baby sister. Her office was down the street from mine, making it possible for us to have a fairly firmly placed ritual of Tuesday lunch.
Recently, she went to work in an office too far away from mine to make it impracticable (if not impossible) for us to lunch together.
To replace this void in my life and in my schedule, I decided to spend my lunch hour on Tuesdays working on this blog.
Up to now I've stolen time to blog.
I have grabbed ten minutes here and fifteen there and so much so that the whole thing has been disjointed.
I have decided to use fill my void with the chance to remedy the need for designated time to work record my ponderings, mullings and musings.
Once upon a time I was writer by trade. Before that, even, I was a writer by chance and choice.
I served on the newspaper staff of my junior high, high school and college newspapers.
My college major was journalism and after I graduated I wrote for several publications waiting on the hub to graduate a five year engineering program.
Still later, I found journalism to be a good profession for a mother of three whose husband traveled.
I could usually arrange my work schedule around my children's.
One of the things that I was proudest of is that I don't think I never missed a deadline.
The press crew did not have to wait on me that I remember.
There was one year that my oldest daughter had three major surgeries in three months. Making deadlines from a hospital several hundred miles from my home and job was a challenge.
I recall once sending an article by fascimile from the nursery of a  hospital while a baby boy was being circumcised in the next room. When I called to make sure the fax went through, the person at the newspaper office on the other end wanted to know what in the world was going on where I was.
That baby was screaming so that they feared someone was killing him rather than performing a medical procedure. I was proud of myself for being conscientious but the lengths that I went to because something of a joke around the newsroom.
One cannot be that invested in a profession and not miss it.
I moved on to another profession some time ago.
Still, I found that I missed writing. A longtime friend and former fellow college newspaper editor recommended I take up blogging. I expressed to her that I missed  writing, having done so much for so long. She was the second friend who'd made the suggestion. I prevailed upon one of my nieces to help me get started.
The recent loss of my Tuesday lunch partner convinced me to ramp it up some. So from yesterday forward, on Tuesdays, I blog!

quotes of the pilgrimages and other keepsakes

Southern phrases and writings are famous for a reason.
They are poetic, often, and fitting almost always.
A few of the quotes we heard on our recent trip to Mississippi stuck with me.
The first one came from a tour guide/docent at one of the antebellum homes just as a group was assembling. Her statement wasn't as memorable as the preface "We have only a couple of tiny little rules..."
Another tour guide/docent, as she described the women who conceived of the Pilgrimage tours back in the 1930's said "Ladies will always find a way."
That same docent, as she described how much a part of the lives of  even the children in  the Pilgrimage is said "We pop ballet shoes on our little boys before they realize not all little boys learn to dance to get ready for Pilgrimages. They don't know that boys everywhere don't do the same thing."

"The rich magnolias covered with fragrant blossoms, the holly, the beech, the tall yellow poplar, the hilly ground and even the red clay, all excited my admiration. Such an entire change in the fall of nature in so short a time seems almost supernatural, and surrounded once more by numberless warblers and thrushes, I enjoyed the scene." Journal of James Audubon, Oakley Plantation, 1821.


My favorite from the trip, though, came from family.
It went something like this:
My sister to me "oooh, you're in a lot of trouble, Cole just posted on facebook that if you are in NOLA or its environs and did not call him, you are on his list?!"
 It didn't me long to be ringing his phone. You see, there is this other thing about southern quotes and statements: they mean it.

Cracker Barrel Diva





When the grandbaby was still young enough  for us to need to eat where we could get things like up green beans and mashed potatoes for her, she developed a love for the Cracker Barrel restaurant. That the Cracker Barrel also has a gift shop with cool toys and clothes cemented her love for the place. Add to that the fact that the restaurant is located near enough to her Granny and Pop Buzz's house that they can meet us there often and you have a Wednesday night tradition.
At least once a month, we try to do do the Cracker Barrel thing. The grandbaby usually spends Wednesday nights with us because her older sister has a late in the evening dance class.  My little chicken is an early to bed, early to rise kind of girl, so we can get her fed, bathed and to bed well before it could happen at her house with her Sissy's dance schedule.
If we time things welll enough, we can be at the Cracker Barrel early enough to have dinner and then let her "shop" a bit before we head home for the bath and bedtime.
That is what was going on in the photo above.
She had just about as much fun trying on things and hamming it up and it looks like!

celebrating all week



There's been a lot to celebrate in my world this week.

Yesterday the Hub had another birthday but the celbrating began last weekend with a seafood dinner at one of his favorite restaurants. All three children were in attendance.
 Monday night, he and the Baby Daughter baked the chocolate cake pictured below while I scrapbooked with one of my best good friends.
Another thing we've been celebrating all week is the time we are all getting to spend with the baby daughter, who is home on a short break between semesters in graduate school. We won't get all the things done we wanted to get done while she is here but we are getting in as many of them as possible.
 
 
 
On Sunday, we had lunch for my Mom

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

other trip possibilities


or, maybe we should visit every historic house on the Mississippi River. Sure, it would take several years...

Or we could visit the great dismal swamp. The sisters love scary things and I love the name.

wish list

There are some things I have always liked and wished I had.
I don't know why.
Among them:


  • a cupola and weathervane
  • a French bakers table
  • an eiderdown quilt

The list was fairly short, until I visited a certain nursery in Natchez, Mississippi. The minute I stepped in to pay for a some mint to take home for juleps, I spotted any number of things I could add to the list.
Only a sampling of those are depicted in the collage below.





favorite things from the Sisters trip 2013

I have to start this post by saying my absolute favorite thing on our Sister Trips is always time with two of the coolest women on the planet!




Other favorites, in no particular order are:

  • the darling children receiving guests at the pilgrimage
  • the child portraits at all so many of the houses






  • discovering a blueberry farm on the way to St. Francisville


















 @Monmouth

love letter from General Quitman to his wife framed and hung on a wall in his study and a similarly framed and hung red bandana the general used to rally his troops  on the battlefield.

 

 

 

the resurrection fern at monmouth

 

 

@ Oakland

the children's school room was my favorite of all.

elegant quilts and other needlework made by an aunt of the owner.

@  Longwood



A cradle basket swing



Longwood's onion dome
 


@ Selma



We loved it that that you can see the Natchez Trace
in the distance from the front porch

and Miss Mimi's "selma blue" kitchen.

 

 

 

 

@ the House on Ellicott Hill


the gorgeous Irish crystal chandelier in the parlor
the crewelwork on the bedding
the trunk by the bed with nailhead initials of its owner on the lid

 

@ Stanton Hall

The four voyages of life paintings by Thomas Cole in the great Hall
caught my attention years ago and hold it still.


@ Green Leaves

the Jib windows
 the china thought to have been painted by John James Audubon
the brother and sister portrait in the gallery

 

 

 

 

 

@ Hope Farm


@ Rosalie


 

 

 

 

 

 

@ many of the homes

the old paris china












The nurseries





looking at all the classic children's things at the children's shop in Natchez and in St. Francisville
visiting the original Darby's (always) and having a slice of their world famous fudge.
visiting Darby's new furniture store across the street and having a nice, nostalgic visit with the proproetor.





 @Rosalie
the clock face on the grandfather clock



the view of th Mississippi River and across to Louisiana from the porch
 

 

In St. Francisville


@Wakefield
the may pole dancers

@Rosedown

My favorite things about Rosedown start before we even arrive at the house
The pretty drive down to the entrance is where I start.
Then there is that spectacular view of the house from the road, with the canopy of trees, reaching across from either side to meet in the middle.
Inside: I love the previously blogged about foyer
a needlepoint screen that came to the house by a near relative of George and Martha Washington who married into the family.
the narrow, dark servant stairs leading from the butlers pantry to the upstairs bedrooms, unchanged to serve as a reminder of the life of house servants.
the gorgeous view down the allee from the front porch

@Oakley







@ the Restaurants where we dined

The biscuits at the Carriage House were as good as ever.

 
the gorgeous wall coverings in the homes

Trip bonuses


Kelly's Kids... moving to Texas. Unbenownst to us ...Last trip to the outlet.